(China-397) December 15, 2019 – Virtual men in China are making money because females are desperate to talk to you!


PERSONAL NOTE: Consider yourself very lucky that you still have friends you can talk to or friends who are willing to listen to your crap and bullshit, most of the times! In Japan, Korea and China, females are dying to pay you money to listen to her bullshit and other more bullshit because she is lonely and cannot friend a boyfriend to fuck or just to talk…it is happening in Japan, Korea and China! The world is flying and there is no time for people who are too focused on chasing after careers, making money and neglecting their social life. So young men, can make tons of money listening to females bullshit, and they would wonderfully compensated. What a sad commentary of today’s soceity that they would pay you to listen to their bullshit! And you be polite, so you can earn more money! Peace, steve, usa, December 15, 2019   stephenehling@hotmail.com   https://getting2knowyou-china.com

They flatter and flirt with single women for money – in China, virtual boyfriends offer intimacy on demand to a career-focused generation
• China’s one-child policy created a generation of self-confident women who have a home, and financial security, but lead isolating lives and are looking for love
• Some find it online, where they pay men to reassure, advise, and be intimate with them. ‘This is a new mode of womanhood that is unprecedented,’ academic says

Agence France-Presse
Published: 1:00pm, 9 Dec, 2019

Chinese teen Robin spends hours online chatting to her man, who always has a sympathetic ear for her problems – as long as she’s willing to pay him.

The 19-year-old premedical student has spent more than 1,000 yuan (US$140) speaking to “virtual boyfriends”. These aren’t seedy sex-chat lines, but men who charge for friendly and flirty online communication, from wake-up calls to lengthy text exchanges and video conversations.

“If someone is willing to keep me company and chat, I’m pretty willing to spend money,” said Robin, who didn’t want to give her real name.

The option for intimacy on demand has gained popularity among China’s middle-income young women, who are often focused on careers and have no immediate plans to marry and start a family.

“Virtual boyfriend” Zhuansun Xu, 22, talks to a woman client while playing a mobile game in his room in Beijing. Photo: AFP

Shops selling virtual friends and partners can be found on Chinese messaging app WeChat or on e-commerce sites such as Taobao. (Taobao is run by Alibaba, owner of the South China Morning Post.) Several virtual boyfriends said most of their customers are single women in their twenties with disposable income.

By day, 22-year-old Zhuansun Xu is a foreign exchange trader in Beijing. By night, he chats with female clients who pay him to be their “boyfriend”, something he has done for the past year.

Young women come to Xu with different needs; some want friendly advice, while others have more romantic requests. “While we’re interacting, I tell myself: I really am her boyfriend, so how can I treat her well?” he said. “But after we’re done, I’ll stop thinking this way.”

Prices start from a few yuan for half an hour of texting, to a few thousand yuan to keep a companion on retainer for phone calls throughout a month.

“People have figured out how to commodify affection,” said Chris K.K. Tan, an associate professor at Nanjing University who has researched the phenomenon. “This is a new mode of womanhood that is unprecedented in China.”

“Virtual boyfriend” Zhuansun Xu poses for a portrait in his room in Beijing. “While we’re interacting, I tell myself: I really am her boyfriend, so how can I treat her well?” he says. Photo: AFP

In the past, many Chinese women could not pursue romance. Sandy To, a sociologist at the University of Hong Kong, said marriage had traditionally been a must in patriarchal Chinese society, but the one-child policy – which came into force in 1979 and limited the size of most families – had created “a generation of self-confident and resourceful women”.

A preference for boys meant a generation of sex-selective abortions and abandoned baby girls, and in 2018, China still had the world’s most skewed gender ratio, at 114 boys born for every 100 girls.

For many women, the policy changed their family dynamics. Parents of female children “raised them as sons”, says

Roseann Lake, author of a book on China’s unmarried women
. “All of those things that traditionally you needed to find in a man – a house, financial security – they were raised with it,” she says.

Zhuansun Xu chatting with a client. More women are looking to satisfy their need for “emotional and self-fulfilment”, says Roseann Lake, author of a book on China’s unmarried women. Photo: AFP

Lisa, a 28-year-old executive in Shanghai, has hired virtual boyfriends to act out romantic scenarios through text messaging. “Of course, there were feelings of love, in letting myself feel like I was being loved,” she said, preferring not to use her real name.

“Because I was just buying a service, I don’t feel any guilt towards real people.”
In the World Economic Forum’s 2018
global gender gap report
, China ranks 103 out of 149 countries on the overall disparity between men and women. However, that climbs to 86 when ranked solely for economic participation and opportunity.

As their economic situation improves, fewer women are choosing to get married.
China’s marriage rate
– the number of marriages per year – has been in decline for the last five years. Last year it reached 7.2 per 1,000 people, according to the National Bureau of Statistics.
Once their basic needs are guaranteed, more women are looking to satisfy their need for “emotional and self-fulfilment”, says Lake.

Although they are materially better off, the lives of many young urban women are “isolating”, says Tan. Most have spent their teenage years studying for the country’s rigorous university entrance exams, at the cost of developing relationships outside school.

Buying virtual boyfriends “is their chance to experiment with love and relationships”, he says.

For Robin and Lisa, virtual companions are appealing because the relationship is convenient. “If I have serious psychological stress, this could make some people think I’m being fussy,” said Robin. “But because I’m giving [the virtual companions] money, they have to reassure me.


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