(America-151) November 6, 2019 – A male college student killed himself because his girlfriend told him so!



Personal note: Obviously the student did not learn a thing after 4 years of college. He was weak, to allow a female to control him. He was stupid! Peace, steve, usa november 6, 2019   stephenehling@hotmail.com   https://getting2knowyou-china.com  

Friend of ‘kind’ Boston College student who killed himself ‘because of barrage of harmful texts from his girlfriend’ insists he never showed any struggles before he jumped to his death hours before his graduation

31 October 2019



• Boston College student Anara Chiongbian says her former upperclassman and mentor Alexander Urtula was ‘life of the party’ and showed no signs of struggle
• Urtula, 22, jumped to his death from parking garage on May 20
• His girlfriend of 18 months, Inyoung You, 21, is charged with manslaughter in connection to his suicide
• Prosecutors say You inundated Urtula with texts demanding that he kill himself
• You was ‘physically, verbally and psychologically abusive,’ say prosecutors
• But she told investigators that she rushed to try to stop Urtula’s suicide
• Now prosecutors face legal challenges in extraditing You from South Korea
31 October 2019

A friend of the Boston College student who jumped to his death from the roof of a parking garage on graduation day this spring, allegedly driven to suicide by his girlfriend, says he never showed any signs of emotional turmoil.
A grand jury this week indicted Inyoung You, 21, on a charge of involuntary manslaughter for allegedly encouraging her boyfriend of 18 months, Alexander Urtula, 22, to take his own life on May 20, just hours before he was scheduled to walk in Boston College’s commencement ceremony in front of his family.
Urtula’s friend Anara Chiongbian, a current Boston College student majoring in economics and international studies, told The Boston Globe via email that the senior was an upstanding leader who known for his sense of humor and was the ‘life of the party’ on campus.
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Chiongbian told the paper she met Urtula through the Philippine Society at Boston College, of which he was the president.
‘Alex would frequently hold get-togethers and parties at his dorm for us,’ she recounted, adding that the upperclassman was ‘kind’ and even helped her pick classes.
Suffolk District Attorney Rachael Rollins said at a press conference on Monday that You was ‘physically, verbally and psychologically abusive’ toward Urtula, sending him hundreds, and possibly thousands, of text messages urging to ‘go kill himself’ or ‘go die.’


Urutla’s college friend Anara Chiongbian, a fellow Boston College student, described him as ‘kind’ and said he never showed signs of distress and was the ‘life of the party’
According to Chiongbian, Urtula ‘never revealed any struggles’ during his interactions with her.
‘He always advocated perseverance through adversity and [a] “work hard, play hard” mentality that was quite inspiring,’ the friend recalled.
You dropped out of Boston College following Urtula’s death and is currently staying in her native South Korea, where she could face extradition if she refuses to return to the US voluntarily.
The 21-year-old reportedly told investigators that on the morning of May 20, she rushed to a Roxbury parking garage and tried to stop Urtula from killing himself.
You had used her phone to track Urtula to the garage and was present when he jumped, prosecutors have said.
On the day of his death, Urtula’s parents, immigrants from the Philippines, were present on campus for his graduation, and he contacted them that morning saying that he planed on hurting himself, the law enforcement officials said.
It is unclear whether an extradition request for You has been filed, and the Justice Department said it does not comment on individual requests, including whether they exist.
Matthew Brelis, a spokesperson for the DA’s office, declined to comment on the matter of You’s possible extradition on a call with DailyMail.com Thursday.
When asked if the agency is planning to make You’s text messages to Urtula public, he said ‘more information will be released at the arraignment,’ which has yet to be scheduled.
Legal experts say that the novelty of the legal theory behind the prosecution may present challenges if You tries to fight extradition.
America’s extradition treaty with South Korea includes a clause stipulating that the charges must be for a crime that is recognized in both countries.
‘South Korea might argue that the mode of participation in the crime would not be recognized under South Korean law, in the fact this is a fairly unorthodox mode of participation,’ John Cerone, a visiting professor of international law at The Fletcher School at Tufts University, told the Boston Herald.
The state of Massachusetts previously successfully prosecuted Michelle Carter for involuntary manslaughter for using text messages and phone calls to encourage her boyfriend, Conrad Roy, to kill himself in 2014.
However, there are few if any other precedents in the U.S., and it is unclear whether such a case has been prosecuted in South Korea.
Prosecutors in Boston say that You had ‘complete and total control’ over her boyfriend before he took his own life.
Rollins said she sent the 22-year-old – who was originally from Cedar Grove, New Jersey – more than 47,000 text messages in the last two months of their relationship, including many urging him to commit suicide.
‘You also tracked Urtula and was nearby when he died in Boston on May 20, the day of his Boston College graduation,’ she said in court.

District Attorney Rachael Rollins acknowledged similarities between You’s case and Carter’s case but said there were significant differences as well, such as the complete control You had over Urtula

The case was likened to that of Michelle Carter the Massachusetts woman who was sentenced to 15 months in jail after she was convicted in 2017 of involuntary manslaughter for using text messages and phone calls to encourage her boyfriend, Conrad Roy, him to kill himself in 2014
Rollins acknowledged similarities between You’s case and Carter’s case but said there were significant differences as well, such as the complete control You had over Urtula.
‘Many of the messages display the power dynamic of the relationship, wherein Ms. You made demands and threats with the understanding that she had complete and total control over Mr. Urtula both mentally and emotionally,’ Rollins said.
You isolated Urtula from friends and family and was aware of the depression and suicidal thoughts brought on by her abuse, the district attorney said.
Prosecutors are in negotiations with You’s counsel to get her to return to the US voluntarily, but if she does not, Rollins said, she will start extradition proceedings.
Representatives who could speak for You could not immediately be located. A spokesman for Rollins said he could not disclose the name of You’s counsel.
Urtula was a biology major who had completed his course work and was working as a researcher at a hospital in New York at the time of his death, Boston College spokesman Jack Dunn said in an emailed statement. He was also active in the Philippine Society of Boston College, an organization of Filipino American students.
You studied economics at Boston College and had been scheduled to graduate next May but withdrew in August, Dunn said.
Carter’s lawyers maintained her texts were constitutionally protected free speech. Her conviction was upheld by the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court, but has been appealed to the US Supreme Court, which hasn’t yet decided whether it will take up the case.
For confidential support call the National Suicide Prevention Line: 1-800-273-8255


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