SPECIAL NOTE: A SEX SURVEY DONE IN CHINA ABOUT SEXUAL SATISFACTION…results not very encouraging. I lived there for 7 years as a visiting professor…and I had visited many many homes, urban and rural. Remember more than 60 percent of Chinese people live in rural areas…what is ironic to the rest of the world is this: people in rural areas have big HOUSES…many 2 or 3 story high! People in cities do not have the luxury to build or live in HOUSES, they all live in cages in many tall high risers all over China and they continue to build like the world is coming to an end! Yes, many young people cannot enjoy sex in crowded apartments, or living with parents because they could not afford to live on their own, especially those who are just starting out in their careers! Imagine having sex like you are watching a silent movies! That is tragedy because sex should be open, free, exciting, not a silent movie! Why like a silent movie? Because there is limited privacy in China…so, some young people have to share apartments because they could not afford the high rents in China…privacy down the drain! Imagine most people living in apartments…Jake, my friend who did the 20 posters with me in China in March 2018, and the one who also designed my new book THIS IS CHINA…one day called me when he was preparing to take exams to enter graduate school…he had moved out of the dormitory to have peace and quiet to focus on his test preparations. He called me to tell me something strange or exciting or arousing was going on next door. He said, Steve, I am not sure if someone is watching an adult sex movies, or actually a couple is having wild sex…I could hear it very loudly…the wall is very thin, Steve. We talked, then he said something very interesting: I could feel the bed shaking! That means, it is not just movies, it is a couple having wild sex! Jake could not study! He suffered! I share this story because THIS IS CHINA. There is more sex in China than America where I now live! Sex is everywhere in China…read my book THIS IS CHINA. Ahahahahaha! Anyway I feel sorry for many young people in China. I asked my female students often because I had a Talk Show in China…and the female students were quick to tell me NO WAY I WOULD WANT TO LIVE WITH MY MOTHER IN LAW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! why? She is not stupid, she wants privacy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Simple! Enjoy the article about privacy in China? Steve USA August 5, 2018 email@example.com (Facebook) https://www.facebook.com/stephenehling (blog) https://getting2knowyou-china.com WeChat 1962816801
Why do millions of Chinese people want to be ‘spiritually Finnish’?
A Finnish cartoon about a socially awkward stickman has become a hit in China – even inspiring a new word in Mandarin. Why has it struck such a chord
Sun 5 Aug 2018 THE GUARDIAN, UK
Privacy is something of a luxury in China, a land with a population of 1.4 billion. Personal space is not a concept that ordinary Chinese are familiar with. Pushing and shoving is a basic survival skill in cities. If you fail to push with fellow commuters to get on a packed underground train, you’ll be met with impatient stares.
Privacy is also political: the concept of “private property” or “private space” was castigated in the Mao era as an evil of the bourgeois class – and this communist ideal is very much alive today. Throughout China, people are happy to lie down for a nap just about anywhere: in an office pantry, on a park bench, even in a museum or concert hall foyer, looking as comfortable as if the public space were their own living room.
So it is a surprise to see Matti, a socially awkward Finnish cartoon character in the Finnish Nightmares comic series become something of a celebrity in China’s cyberspace. A new term in Mandarin has even been coined to describe people who are like the hero: jingfen, or “spiritually Finnish”. According to a widely distributed definition on social media, jingfen broadly refers to people who dislike socialising – like the Finns, apparently – and take their personal space “extremely seriously”.
Matti’s fear of crowds and small talk and his tendency to be easily embarrassed has struck a chord with many Chinese readers, who seem relieved that their longing for privacy has finally been voiced – via the medium of a stick figure from a faraway country. But it’s Finnish culture itself – of which privacy and personal space have long been part – that has also struck a chord.
“Finland is a paradise for people with social anxiety disorder,” wrote WeChat user Zhang Yanmei in a post. “I am a jingfen, please do not disturb me unnecessarily!” wrote an anonymous user in the title of his essay on the website Douban. “Can you see yourself in Matti?” he asked. “He is shy and introspective and the trials and tribulations of life are not just Matti’s nightmare. We’re all afraid of loneliness, but we crave even more for our personal space and privacy to be respected.” It is a sentiment that will ring true for many people in China.